WHERE
THIS WORK APPLIES
ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS
FAMILY HEALING
WORKPLACE & LEADERSHIP
SEXUAL INTIMACY
COMMUNITY
MY APPROACH
My work weaves Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy with my methodology, The Art of REPAIR.
This is not just about communication.
It’s about transforming the patterns underneath your relationships.
Step 1
AWARENESS
Before anything can change, you have to see it clearly.
Conflict isn’t random.
It follows patterns you learned early in life to stay safe, loved, or in control.
Together, we identify:
Your automatic reactions under stress
The protective strategies you rely on (shutdown, control, avoidance, people-pleasing)
The moments where you lose choice
From there, we build your capacity to pause, regulate, and respond intentionally.
Result:
More clarity. Less reactivity. Real choice in moments that used to feel automatic.
Step 2
HEALING ATTACHMENT WOUNDS
Awareness alone isn’t enough.
If your nervous system is still wired for protection, you’ll keep repeating the same patterns even when you know better.
This is where we do the deeper work:
Healing attachment wounds from earlier relationships
Shifting out of survival states and into your “wise adult”
Building internal safety so connection doesn’t feel threatening
This step is what makes lasting change possible.
Result:
Less fear. More capacity for closeness, honesty, and emotional stability.
Step 3
THE ART OF REPAIR
Now we bring in the tools.
Once you have awareness and enough internal stability, you can actually use relational skills in real time.
Using The Art of REPAIR, you’ll learn how to:
Navigate conflict without escalating or shutting down
Create shared reality instead of arguing over who’s right
Express impact in a way that builds understanding
Restore trust with clear, meaningful repair
Conflict becomes something that strengthens your relationship rather than threatens it.
Result:
You know how to come back into connection again and again.
Take the first step:
ABOUT
MY COACHING STYLE
My coaching is structured, trauma-aware, and relationally direct.
I help you interrupt old patterns, build practical repair skills, and create secure connection in the relationships that matter most.
I am warm, and I am honest.
When you’re grounded, we build skill.
When you’re activated, we slow down and work with what’s underneath.
I care deeply about nervous system safety, and I care about accountability.
Both matter.
I bring structure to moments that feel chaotic.
I interrupt blame without shaming you.
I help you see your patterns clearly, and I stay with you as you practice doing something different.
I’m also very human.
I laugh. I tell stories. I name what I see.
I’m transparent about my own growth edges and lived experience.
This work is serious, but it doesn’t have to be heavy.
There is room for breath, humor, and tenderness alongside the hard conversations.
WHAT PEOPLE ARE EXPERIENCING
FROM WORKING WITH DR. HAZEL-GRACE
Client Case Studies:
A high school teacher was able to de-escalate two students who were fighting and guide them back to connection.
A client went from being terrified of conflict and carrying resentment to no longer running away and addressing challenging conversations with confidence.
A couple went from fighting and instability to showing up with care and calmly healing the damage they have caused over time.
A client was able to teach her parents who have been married for 40 years some tools that instantly turned a fight into hearing and understanding one another.
A client went from being taken advantage of by her boss to being able to say No and speak up for her needs.
A client healed from a belief that most relationships will end at the first major or seemingly insurmountable rupture. It feels revolutionary to view rupture, thus repair, as something that can boost or level up relationships
A couple went into a “should we even be together” conversation, implemented tools from The REPAIR Process, and had a 4 hour healing conversation that needed to happen for years.
A community leader was able to support their group through a major conflict creating more unity and harmony among their community members.